I’ve always enjoyed Einstein’s definition of insanity: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Up until now, I’ve just enjoyed it because it’s true. Then I got thinking this morning – how did Einstein come to this conclusion?
I’d say chances are he did the same thing over and over and expected different results.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve done a lot of reading on how we learn lessons in life, and how the same lesson will keep coming at us until we learn it (for some great read suggestions, check here). Call it fate or whatever else you need to, but it’s the joys of life – we are here to learn, grow and develop. We have all experienced this at least once or twice. If you ask my friends and family, some would say I’m the definition of insanity. I’m always giving people second chances or third, fourth, three-hundred-fourth… but after that three-hundred-and-fourth chance, I usually come to terms with the fact the situation is driving me bonkers.
It can be a combination of faults in the definition of insanity. For one, we are at fault for whatever keeps coming our way, as we clearly haven’t learned our lesson. I would say that each time I let something or someone back into my life, I learn something else that will eventually allow me to peacefully let things go and move forward. Then, there’s the enabling role we sometimes play. I can’t count how many times someone has hurt me or angered me and I just decided to “let it go”. I’ve ignored that little voice in my head and allowed them to hurt me time after time – thinking to myself that “it’s the last time” and “they won’t do it again.” Guess what? Not the case.
So, what do you do? Here are 3 things to help:
Listen to the little voice inside your head
That little voice that says “this person isn’t good for you,” “this situation is just not what you need right now,” “that job is detrimental to your health.” Whatever your little voice is saying, you need to listen.
In every situation, search for the lesson
The good, the bad and the ugly – we learn from every aspect of life. So even if you’re going around again on that merry-go-round of insanity check to see what you’re learning so far. Chances are you’re learning more than you are giving yourself credit for.
Ride the insanity
Sometimes, you’re just destined to ride the insanity for now. I can tell you there have been situations in my life that I don’t regret for a second that I have circled back to again and again. Be it people I love, or skills I feel I need to grow – sometimes our lessons just need to be learned the hard way and there’s nothing wrong with that either.
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