“Whatever is meant to be, shall be.” It’s a line my friends and family have heard me speak many times. Through hard times, harder times, and the real nitty gritty crappy times, I always try to see the slightest silver lining. Sometimes it’s hard. No, correction, a LOT of the time it is hard.
“Whatever is meant to be, shall be.”
Seeking the good in most difficult situations is not an easy task, and even for those of us who do it, it’s not something we came across naturally. In fact, up until a couple of years ago, I basically could find doom and gloom in a lot of different situations. I was also insecure in my own skin and was an expert at “the blame game.”
Nowadays, I enjoy how many of my friends turn to me when they need encouragement. I’m the friend they call when they are down because I am the person who now sees the glass half full. And when my friends are really down, I’m the friend who will help pour that glass half full of encouragement… AND wine. Amazing friends are seriously like finding a needle in a haystack – if you’ve got a great one, nurture that friendship and help it to grow.
But, let’s pause for a second now, and rewind. Like I said, a couple years back this wasn’t the case. In all aspects of my life, I wasn’t in the shiniest of places; I wasn’t enjoying my job, my relationship(s), or my friendships. Everything seemed like it was kind of in the gutter. When we are in the gutter though, I say we have two choices:
1) Sit and wallow in the gutter, blaming everyone and anything for every problem in your life
2) Sit and wallow for a few (because we all deserve to, especially when life is realllllly crappy) and then start finding the way up and out.
Like I said, it’s not easy. It takes a lot of time, focus, meditation, and really wanting to see that glass half full more often. No one is perfect. There are still days where I wallow or insist the glass is half empty, but I pause, sit in silence, colour for a bit, and start focusing on the up and out instead. We all have those days and it’s okay!
There’s nothing I find more inspiring than people who try though. They try to see the glass half full. Try to better them. Try to create solutions to their problems. Sometimes you’ll succeed, sometimes you won’t, but I give 100% credit to those who are willing to take that risk, be vulnerable and try. As one my favourites of all favourites, Brene Brown, says:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood…”
Over a glass of wine (who would’ve guessed), I was inspired to do a series of extra blogs. For the next five weeks, I will be posting a blog on Fridays as well. In discussions about the blog post today, we were discussing aspects of our life where it is incredibly hard to discover the “good” and one topic that kept coming up was exes. We always want to victimize and feel villainized in those scenarios – so, I have challenged myself over the next five weeks to write a blog post about each one of my ‘major’ exes (trust me, if I did every ex-boyfriend it would be a long ass read). In no particular order, it is guaranteed to be an interesting read…