You can’t always get what you want. As the song goes, it is the reality of life. Sometimes your dream job doesn’t materialize, the material object is out of your price range, the relationship doesn’t work out, or whatever else you might be thinking about. I’ve been thinking a lot about “want” this week and here’s what I’ve come up with…
While I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that “things happen for a reason” and sometimes we don’t get that job or person or whatever because “something better is coming along.” However, frankly, sometimes we just DON’T get it. It doesn’t make sense. There isn’t a bigger picture. It’s just the way things go. And what I’m realizing is – THAT IS OKAY. In fact, that’s more than okay. It’s time to reframe our wants.
Reframing The Wants
If you’re reading this right now and thinking “all I want is happiness,” stop right now. When we think that happiness is achievable by managing our “wants” I think we are doing it wrong. I think it’s like trying to build a puzzle by just looking at the picture on the box and not focusing on the intricate pieces of it. To me, these are a few of my wants that popped into my head this week:
- Adventure – It’s self-created. Whenever I want an adventure, I find an adventure. Recently, I’ve found myself waking up in adventure mode. With more flexibility and time on our hands, I’ve made it my mission to explore. Find new trails, grab the adventure puppy, and go!
- Trust – Thankfully, I’m surrounded by it. Those who are in my life have earned my trust and I (hopefully) have earned theirs too. We have open and meaningful conversations, and I’m happy to have them in my life. Without trust, the relationships wouldn’t be what they are – and, rightly so, those who have broken my trust I no longer engage with.
- Peace – In my life, I have become comfortable in chaos (I am sure that others have experienced this too). I’ve been working hard to break free of that. Following this Instagram account has helped, but so has meditating, writing, nature, and engaging in healthy, meaningful relationships.
In The End
These are just a few of many wants in my life. I’ll be honest, I still struggle with the materialistic things too. I want a house. I would love a waterfront property someday. Sometimes I question if I should get a new car – the list goes on and on. However, if I focus on the self-created wants, the things that come from inside, I’ll be disappointed a whole lot less. Disappointment is a factor of life, but the more we focus on the next thing (literally ‘things’), I feel like the more we will be disappointed.
Focus on you. Focus on your own creations. Think about what you really want and go for it. Quarantine has given us a lot of gifts – and one of those is time. Use it well. Thanks for the quick read. Stay tuned for two new posts next week!